Do you have people that seem to be a non-stop source of complaints showing up on your Facebook Feed? If so here is how to remove negative people from your facebook feed without unfriending them. Try this for 30 days and I guarantee you will be feeling lighter.
Simple things like this can remove stress and add to the quality of your life and it it's something you can do today.
I would love to hear what you think in the comments below.
Stop waiting for life to kick you out of your comfort zone. Put your hands back on the wheel and take control TODAY! Here is how to cheat at growth and get away with it
Few things can force us out of our comfort zones like earth shattering experience of a forced change. The change could come in the form of a lost job, place to live, relationship or the heartbreaking loss of a loved one. It's during these moments in time that our primal nature as animals kicks in. The wild will to thrive or die.
For many of us this can be one of the worst times in our lives. Times we think we will never get through. Moments of dread, fear and a pain we are forced to swallow against our will. We think we will never see light again... Until we do. For many people, the end of the storm is followed by lessons and light we never saw before. Life has forced us to grow and we see things in a new way, perhaps a total metamorphosis even happens in these moments.
We may finally have the gumption to set out on a new path or do things we have been dreaming of in our hearts and now, feeling like we have nothing to lose, we embark on journeys our soul had been longing for.
But what if I told you that you don't need to wait for life to force you to grow, that you don't need to endure a terrible storm or loss to get out of your comfort zone. What if I told you that you could experience more of what life has in store for you without tearing your whole world apart? The truth is you can, it only takes an openness to expand, to get out of your comfort zone to have a more rich and vibrant life.
You don't have to leave everything behind to be reborn into the skin of a new version of yourself. You only need to take a few actionable steps that you can do today.
Here is how to get going.
Grab a pen and paper and make a list of your "some days." You know what I am talking about, the sentences that run around in your head. Or the things that are triggered when you hear or read about someone you know doing something interesting.
For instance, someday I will take a class in xyz or finish my degree. Someday I will take a trip to see this special place. Someday I will learn how to_________ Someday I will get in better shape. Someday I will...
When you make your list, let it be free and wild, nothing is off limits so don't censor yourself. This is called free writing so make some quiet time with a cup of tea or coffee and let your mind go .
After you have created your list (you can doodle too) pick one thing that you will commit to doing today to work toward and start making a plan to do it. Everyone will have different circumstances so find what feels right for you. Then, give yourself a week to come up with a plan to put it in to action. If this is fitness related start with committing to a daily walk. If this is travel, school or work related start researching the place, topic or job you are interested in.
The Internet is your friend so have fun with it. If you need to make some calls then do that too. The sheer energy of your action will get your mind thinking differently. You can always take a break but give yourself a time to get back at it.
Request information, send off resumes whatever it is that will help you commit to expanding past your comfort zone. When you have gotten the information you seek the next step is making a plan to bring it to life. When you do this exercise and set things in motion you will see that it expands your thought process in a way that you will feel more alive and less afraid. Little by little you will see and experience growth on YOUR terms. You are no longer waiting on life to happen to you, This is called living on purpose. Onward and enjoy.
Summary of Steps to cheat at growth and get away with it
- Make a list of your "some days."
- Commit to action
- Request or research information
- Make a plan
Don't let work become a rut, here are 5 Fun Ways to boost happiness and productivity at work now. The art of play and enthusiasm not only bolsters joy in the individual it has remarkable results on creative productivity; In no partifcular order here are the furious 5.
1. The morning high 5- Employees get up from their desks for a moment to walk around and give each other a high five while saying good morning. Like an ice breaker at a conference, this evokes laughter and energy out of the participants. The morning high five helps create an inclusive "we are all in this together bond. "
2. The 5 minute tech disconnect - Employees sit at their desk placing their hands in their laps for five minutes of quiet. The key is to place phones out of sight and most vital is to remove their hands from the keyboards entirely. Ideally, the monitor would be off and eyes closed, however this can be something to work up to. The idea of the hands being off the keyboard in the tech industry can be akin to removing a limb but with practice it has remarkable calming results.
3. The Shake it off- Employees stand up in place while rapidly shaking their hands at their wrists while taking deep full breaths. This practice helps enhance energy while providing a good release to overworked wrists and hands. Try it for two minutes and I think you will agree it feels fantastic.
4. The 1 minute free write- Employees take one minute to jot down creative ideas. the ideas can be for work and life so overlap is okay. The key is allowing the mind to expand without restriction. A colorful crayon(s) or marker(s) are encouraged in the practice. Creativity and play have a beneficial effect on problem solving skills and the creation of new ideas.
5. The gratitude blast- Employees write a list of 5 things they are grateful for preferably first thing in the morning. While I often suggest this practice be done at home, it is perfect for work as well. This one may be one we hear about often, however it's positive impact after 30 days on happiness is so profound that I had to include it.
If you have tips of your own or comments, as always, leave them below.
I'm a control freak, truth be told it has always been that way. Who knows exactly why, some would argue it's because I am the oldest child and that goes with the territory. Whatever the reason, it's something I am working on and the more I work on it the better I am at letting go.
Type A personalities or those often dubbed as control freaks or perfectionists seem to hold the common idea that no one can do what they need to do as good as them. This fact is illuminated when it comes to a passion project. It could be a business venture, a hobby they love, raising children or something as simple as redecorating a room.
There are many benefits to wanting to go all in and being intimately involved in very single aspect of something. You have the benefit of not being able to blame someone else if something sucks or goes wrong. You can take all the credit when things go right while making sure that every little thing is just exactly as you had planned. With a business this can allow you to keep costs low by doing most of what needs to be done yourself, in the ending saving you heaps of money or does it?
The downfall of trying to stay in control of everything is that is extremely exhausting. We don't benefit from those in our life that have skills to bring to the table. It utilizes most of our resources allowing little time for much else. Staying in control of everything can inhibit us from building trusting relationships with people in our inner circle.
Think about the parent that doesn't trust the teacher (I don't mean one not so good teacher that is not worthy of this roll) to teach and guide the student in the classroom environment. The constant trumping of the teachers roll can in fact make the teacher give less to the student because they don't want to fight the parent anymore.
In business this can lead to delayed project launches, disengaged and uninspired employees and actually cost your far more than you think you are saving by doing it all yourself. I know about this first hand, I have had huge projects that I tried to don every hat possible, thinking I know better than anyone else because it is MY baby. I thought I wasn't delayed correcting someone else's work, or paying someone to do it and everything would be just PERFECT.
What I learned about not being brave enough to lose control was that it prohibited me from creating a expert team that I could trust. That tool belt was empty and it was all my fault. I got the glory but I also got a huge delay, releasing something into the world that should have been done so much sooner. It impacted the areas that I did best because I was so darn tired trying to be the solo captain of the ship that should a stormy sea arise, the ship could in fact sink.
The power of losing control also applies to your spiritual life. In reality, other than our own actions we have little control over some circumstances we are faced with in life. We use all of our efforts to go outside to keep everything in a neat little box that we forget to go within. We don't polish up areas of life that can serve us like faith, patience and grace. We become less able ale to pivot if something unexpected happens.
The more we are able to see the power that exists in losing control so many areas of our life benefit. We see deeper bonds in our human relationships, business projects get launched faster and we begin to trust our own resilience and that adds calm to our spirit.
Several years ago if I was faced with a huge disappointment it would rock my world, leaving me feeling bummed out longer than it should. Frustration would lead to anger and as we know anger rarely leads anywhere. I am now able to pivot better, learning that a disappointment means something wasn't meant for me the way it was and I can work on making it something that would be.
The funny thing is, in losing control you actually gain so much more control over your life and peace of mind than you can imagine; It seems counterintuitive, but it's true.
Here are 4 Simple tip to help you embrace the power of losing control and feel free
1. DELEGATE, DELEGATE, DELEGATE
Start with one task you feel comfortable delegating to a person you trust delegating to. Start small, see how it goes and check in on yourself. Don't expect magic overnight, it's all about starting where you are.
2. Have A Conversation
If you would like to open up an area of your life more, share that with someone. I think most people are very understanding. So, if you have been a control freak with them in the past, acknowledge this fact with them and explain it is something you are working on. Good people will help you move mountains if you let them. The byproduct of the conversation can be a deeper human bond.
3. Examine The Worst Case Scenario
It is often our imagined mental hypothetical that can terrorize us. Once you go over what the worst case scenario is, and can sit with that comfortably it can relieve a tremendous amount of pressure. It is also a good place to gauge if this is the correct area to release control. This is not about going through the world willy nilly but about making intelligent decisions that work for you.
4. Practice Faith
When you find a way to practice faith, it pours into your personal power like a beautiful stream. Faith in you higher power, faith in nature, whatever faith means to you. Sitting in your house of worship, practicing meditation or getting outside for a walk are all great ways to practice faith. You can remind yourself that you are doing the best you can, if something isn't working out as you like you can gain valuable insight into what may need to be altered. It allows you to see what you truly have control over and what you don't; that alone can be calming.
These are only a few suggestions so feel free to come up with some of your own. I highly suggest you write down your pain point (an area you are deciding to work on) then review it monthly for a six month period to see your progress. Feel free to jot down any notes or irritations along the way. You will find that with mindful action, what felt like an impossibility today can become part of your new reality.
If you know someone that can benefit from this, please share it with them. As always leave your comments or opinions because your insights may just help someone else.
So you want to become a freelancer? Here are some important tips before you make the leap. The freelance/gig economy has seen unprecedented grow in the last few years. With the advent of eBay in 1995 to Uber, Task Rabbit, & rent-a-coder what was once a sector often relegated to the actors, artists or the free spirit types has now gained amazing credibility. Credibility with real money behind it. In 1995 we saw many people harness the then new platform of eBay to generate significant income. Many people left jobs and began creating a full-time business on their own terms.
Fast forward to now and the number of freelance/gig opportunities has exploded. With Uber quickly becoming a billion dollar business due to the massive number of drivers who signed on, ( to join the freelance/gig economy) it is evident that this new way of making a living has massive appeal. What also makes this market appealing is the variety of skill sets it now includes, from being paid to do tasks for people as a Task Rabbit user to doing technical coding jobs on demand as a rent-a-coder user, there is indeed something for everyone. While this all may sound very appealing there are some caveats to consider before leaving a full-time job.
Like any business, references and a solid profile of your experience are a must. Be prepared to communicate swiftly with your prospects and do not exaggerate your skills. It only takes a few really bad reviews to stop you before you get started. By getting all your ducks in order you can take advantage of a flexible work schedule and the ability to control your revenue in a very new and dynamic way. In the end, having control of your time is often the most valuable asset of all.