Shannon Simone Miller is a Strategic Life & Business Coach and has been featured in Newsweek Magazine, she is the author of Sparks for the Spirit-Quotes to Fuel Your Inner Fire on Amazon. Shannon believes that "A happy life begins when you live on purpose."

Don't let a hard time in life get in the way of your dreams and impact your health

Sometimes in life, we can experience an epiphany or change so profound that it changes the very essence of who we are. While we have the ability to improve with purposeful action daily, it is often in the storms of life, that change is thrust upon us in a way imagined. It can be treacherous and painful, a feeling of hundreds of dark nights woven together eclipsing even the faintest spark of light. Then it occurs, the parting of the clouds and streams of light begin to fill our world. The lens of shiftlessness or complacency have been washed clean and a new lens of clarity appears in its place. It is only after enduring the journey does the change appear before us, it is the change that is creating new shape with our life, sending us into new territory. It is the change that was so brutal and confounding yet the change we would not exchange even if it meant wiping away all of the memory of what came before.

Life can suck sometimes, there is no doubt about that. Sometimes we lose someone dear to us, we are in a job that doesn't honor our highest good, we have people we thought were friends make an about face leaving us wondering and questioning what all the time meant and it hurts. We lose a job, bills are stacking up and the mountain before us looks like Everest growling and us while we limp by just trying to get through the day.

These moments are cyclical, they will rear there ugly heads again and again so it's better to find grace and acceptance and understand it is all part of the human journey. If every day was a simple joy there would be no contrast to give this all meaning, we would expect nothing less than simple. Despite the idea that people may say I want an easy life, if we didn't have the tough times, the good would have no way to shine so brightly.

So, how to be use these moments as tools for change and accept them without anger and fear? We just let them roll, we honor the suck factor and trust that it all will pass, we hold on to those that loves us enough to show up without conditions. We surround ourselves with smart people, we take time to go within weather meditating, prayer or practicing our faith. In the end, we can take a deep sigh and just "BE."  Western culture is a NOW results driven culture that leaves most of us reeling and disenchanted the crap seems insurmountable even when it will clear like storm clouds in the sky.
Abraham Maslow speaks on self realization and until we can come to terms with the ebbs and flows we have little time for the journey and growth. Giving yourself the kindness and love you bestow on others is a great way to get your bearings and let yourself breath. If you are committed to growth you must embrace these storms. In truth , it is not for everyone, some find the day in and out movement fine. But if you are reading this, chances are you don't belong to that group.
By giving yourself a break, you release tension and stress and allow yourself to evolve into the person you are meant to be but it, lie everything in life is a choice and you can't have both. Whatever questions are sending your mind on the hamster wheel of life find a way to cease it. I found when my mind is taking over with ridiculous thoughts I say "not helpful." I watch the thought and let it come and go, thinking isn't a bad thing, it is what you do with it. Just like hard times are not the issue, it's who you let yourself become after experiencing them that matters most.


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The importance of finding your tribe in life

We have all heard the saying "finding your tribe" or "I need to find my tribe" but what the heck does this mean and why is this important for us? Don't worry, you won't need to paint your face and run around in crazy clothes (though that could be fun wouldn't it?)

A tribe is a group of people we know and engage with where we feel a unique sense of comfort and ease.  When you find your tribe you may hear yourself exclaiming "These are my people!"

A tribe is a special kinship you have with a group of people  that often extends beyond our typical family, friendship or work connections (though it can include those too.)  Your tribe might consist of  soulful , spiritual, artistic, activity based or business connections.

A tribe doesn't need to be large to be effective and yes,  you can have more than one tribe so don't over think it. Finding your tribe will give you a feeling of belonging  and you will know it without thought, the same way you know when you taste something delicious. Finding your tribe is indeed food for your soul.

It's the place in life that lights you up, where you feel the most real version of yourself and hopefully loved and lifted up too. We may feel like we are on a similar path as members of our tribe,  often sharing  ideas or concepts that we can help each other out with.

What can finding my tribe do for me?

Often a tribe can help provide you with more intimate insights than many people out of other circles of your life. Being part of a such a collective of people you click with can make you feel empowered and strong. This is also an awesome environment  for naturally generating new ideas for work and life while fostering  a sense of community and belonging which is vital for a healthy productive life.

"In fact, a Harvard study examining the lives of almost 3,000 people found that those who gather together to go out to dinner, play cards, go on day trips, vacation with friends, go to the movies, attend sporting events, go to church, and engage in other social activities outlive their reclusive peers by an average of two and a half years. Finding your tribe is not only fun. It can also save your life." Mind Over Medicine (Hay House, 2013) Lissa Rankin, MD

I don't even know where to begin, how do I find my tribe?

It often requires us to take a step outside of our comfort zone to find our tribe. Here is a quick list of 10 places you can explore to find your tribe.

  1. Motivational Conferences or other topic specific events.
  2. Religious or Spiritual Communities like Church
  3. Music/ Art festivals like Burning Man, Coachella etc.
  4. Athletic  communities, like Cross Fit, cycling or hiking clubs
  5. Yoga studios
  6. Civic organizations like Kiwanis or Rotary International
  7. Volunteer organizations like The American Red Cross
  8. Business organizations like Toastmasters
  9. Acting Classes  
  10. Art Classes

When you are out doing things that interest you it just takes a bit of exploration and before you know it, you too will be saying "These are my people!"

It's easy to see why finding your tribe in life is so very important not only for your happiness but also for your personal success.  Have you found your tribe? If so I would love to hear about it in the comments below.

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5 fun ways to boost happiness and productivity at work now

Don't let work become a rut, here are 5 Fun Ways to boost happiness and productivity at work now. The art of play and enthusiasm not only bolsters joy in the individual it has remarkable results on creative productivity;  In no partifcular order here are the furious 5.


 1. The morning high 5-  Employees get up from their desks for a moment to walk around and give each other a high five while saying good morning. Like an ice breaker at a conference, this evokes laughter and energy out of the participants. The morning high five helps create an inclusive "we are all in this together bond. "

2. The 5 minute tech disconnect - Employees sit at their desk placing their hands in their laps for five minutes of quiet. The key is to place phones out of sight and most vital is to remove their hands from the keyboards entirely. Ideally, the monitor would be off and eyes closed, however this can be something to work up to. The idea of the hands being off the keyboard  in the tech industry can be akin to removing a limb but with practice it has remarkable calming results.

3. The Shake it off- Employees stand up in place while rapidly shaking their hands at their wrists while taking deep full breaths. This practice helps enhance energy while providing  a good release to overworked wrists and hands. Try it for two minutes and I think you will agree it feels fantastic.

4. The 1 minute free write- Employees take one minute to jot down creative ideas. the ideas can be for work and life so overlap is okay. The key is allowing the mind to expand without restriction. A colorful crayon(s) or marker(s) are encouraged in the practice. Creativity and play have a beneficial effect on problem solving skills and the creation of new ideas.

5. The gratitude blast- Employees write a list of 5 things they are grateful for preferably first thing in the morning. While I often suggest this practice be done at home, it is perfect for work as well. This one may be one we hear about often, however it's positive impact after 30 days on happiness is so profound that I had to include it.

 If you have tips of your own or comments, as always, leave them below.


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